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    Memories of
    What Might Have Been

    by Mike Cox
    Mike Cox
    After taking one final look at the still form of his mother, Clifton Maxey Cobb discretely pulled the old letter from his coat pocket and placed it inside her casket. Later that December day following the services, funeral home workers covered her grave, the last chapter of a love story dating back to Reconstruction.

    Whether Cobb read the letter from the man who could have been his father before complying with his mother’s wishes that it be buried with her is not known, but he did read her old diary. That’s how the Dallas man discovered the abbreviated if timeless tale it contained, a story of love, betrayal and possibly, closure.

    An undated newspaper clipping pasted into a scrapbook kept during the Texas Centennial in 1936 left many questions unanswered, but at least set forth the key elements of the story.

    According to the article, Cobb’s mother was Rella Maxey Cobb Harris, born to Nelson Maxey and his wife at the old Republic of Texas town of Washington-on-the-Brazos, in 1853. As a teenager, she began keeping a diary. She described numerous events in her life before penning an entry on March 18, 1868 that marked her first mention of a romance that apparently had already progressed to a promise of marriage.

    “Every gay crowd I get into makes me think of my betrothed husband,” Rella wrote. “Tommie Lusk, who is now at Washington College, Lexington, Va., going to school and not here to be with me in all the crowds.”

    With Tommie attending classes out of state, the couple kept in touch by mail, professing their love and envisioning their future life together.

    “Went to Sunday school this morning and got a letter from Tommie,” Rella noted on June 6 while making no mention of its content.

    Late that summer, Rella’s fiance came back to Texas for a visit.

    “Tommie Lusk has returned from school in Virginia, has just come to Washington [as locals then referred to Washington-on-the-Brazos],” she wrote on Sept. 9. “He never came to see me, although stayed until the 11th [of August.] They say he is very handsome.”

    Since surely they had spent time together before he left for college, Rella’s last line is puzzling. Perhaps she meant that someone who had seen him had reported that he appeared handsome as ever. But why he came home and did not see the young lady with whom he had been discussing marriage is the bigger question.

    No matter, the romance blossomed the following winter. As Rella wrote on January 22, 1869: “I received a letter from Tommie Lusk, asking me to meet him at Ed Randle’s and be married on the 5th of February; that Mr. Randle would come after me and take me out there. Pa will not give his consent to our marriage. We will elope.” A Shakespearian-like development, but she offered no further details.

    From her Feb. 1 entry: “How happy I am; how long it takes the 5th to come. I wonder if my life will be all sunshine? I have been busy making a corset cover today.”

    Any day, she expected another letter from her intended, a missive that would contain more information on Tommie’s plans for their elopement. But on the day she believed she would be married, her young heart got broken for the first time.

    “At last the long expected letter has arrived,” Rella wrote on Feb. 5, “but Mattie Cartmell has spoiled the whole plot; she intercepted one of Tommie’s letters and Pa has found all out.”

    Oops. Rella’s dad served as a Washington County sheriff’s deputy and tax collector. Like most fathers, he obviously was not quite ready to let go of his little girl.

    Mattie Cartmell’s relationship to Rella must also be a matter of conjecture at this late date. Whether a “frienemy” motivated by jealousy or someone who felt she was doing Rella a favor by preventing her elopement at such a young age, in a figurative sense she had spilled the proverbial beans all over Rella’s newly sewn corset cover.

    For a time, Rella clung to the hope that she and Tommie still somehow would be married. But he ended up moving to Canada, and that was that.

    In time, as almost always happens in cases of unrequited love, Rella recovered from her parentally dashed teenage romance and found another beau. She married a man named James Cobb, a union that lasted until his death in 1911.

    Lusk had stayed in Canada, but somehow he learned that Rella had been widowed. By then, the 16-year-old girl he had once schemed to marry had become a woman of 58. That’s when he wrote her one more letter, the missive that Rella kept until her death and told her son she wanted to take to her grave.

    Whatever Lusk wrote in that letter – maybe an admission that he still loved her, maybe a second proposal, maybe a confession or at least an explanation – they did not marry. After a decade, now 68, Rella took a second husband, one James Harris. They had 12 years together before he died in 1933, leaving her a widow once again, alone with her memories of what might have been.

    © Mike Cox -
    July 28, 2011 column
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